Finding My Aesthetic
For years, I dressed like everyone else. I decorated my space based on what was trending. I tried to fit into aesthetics that looked good on Pinterest but never quite felt like... me.
The Pinterest Trap
Don't get me wrong—Pinterest is amazing for inspiration. But there's a difference between being inspired by something and trying to become it.
I went through phases:
- Minimalist (but I love color)
- Dark academia (but I don't actually like brown)
- Cottagecore (but I live in a city apartment)
Each time, I'd commit fully, then feel like something was off. Like I was wearing a costume instead of expressing myself.
What I Actually Like
I started paying attention to what I was naturally drawn to, regardless of whether it "matched" a trend:
- Colors: Pink (obviously), gold, cream, soft lavender
- Textures: Velvet, silk, soft knits
- Vibe: Feminine but not delicate, warm but not busy
- Elements: Stars, sparkles, soft lighting
Creating vs. Curating
The shift happened when I stopped trying to curate a perfect aesthetic and started creating one that felt authentic.
For My Space
- I kept pieces I genuinely loved, even if they didn't "go together"
- I added soft lighting everywhere (fairy lights, candles, warm lamps)
- I incorporated celestial elements that make me smile
- I prioritized comfort over Instagram-worthiness
For My Style
- I bought clothes I actually wanted to wear, not what I thought I should wear
- I stopped following trends that didn't resonate
- I embraced colors that make me feel good
- I invested in a few quality pieces instead of a closet full of "meh"
The Result
My space and style now feel like home. They feel like me. And the funny thing is, other people notice. I get more compliments now than when I was trying so hard to be trendy.
Final Thoughts
Your aesthetic is allowed to evolve. It's allowed to be a mix of things. It's allowed to be completely unique to you.
The goal isn't to fit into a box. The goal is to feel at home in your own life.